Aman, in his 20s, was looking to end his relationship.
He wasn’t able to give a specific reason behind his breakup with his partner for four years. He stated that there was a time. When we began to unravel the relationship, there appeared to be no issues.
He believed that his girlfriend was an incredible person. He had not seen anyone else, and He wasn’t adamant by the desire to “explore” all the choices available as his peers were doing.
He’d thought that a clean break was the best thing for everyone. For him, for her. His girlfriend wasn’t convinced -but he didn’t understand her perspective that he had made up his opinion.
The problem was that he was not thinking clearly. The thoughts he was having were altered due to anxiety and depression. He’d decided that breaking up this relationship would be the most effective method to alleviate his stress in that mind space.
It isn’t simple.
Whatever the cause behind it, it’s much more difficult if you or your partner is suffering from your mental wellbeing.
According to Elisabeth Shaw, CEO at Relationships Australia NSW, you may feel accountable for their wellbeing and be concerned about how your actions affect them.
“Generally, women find it harder to leave than men, as their sex-role training increases the sense of obligation and guilt at abandoning someone in need.”
Ms. Shaw believes it’s essential not to be a believer in the notion of “it’s all up to me” or to stay in a relationship simply because you feel stuck.
There are a few factors to be considered when you are separating from a relationship if your partner is suffering from mental health issues.
It’s crucial to realize that mental health issues can be complex and diverse and how you can react towards them within your relationships.
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Breaking up isn’t simple. The process of breaking up with a partner who is struggling with a mental illness can be a real pain. There comes a time in all relationships when it is necessary to look at your alternatives and make difficult decisions.
Nobody wants to be accused of leaving a loved one in the time they are in greatest need. However, you shouldn’t be in a strained relationship with no hope of a better future because of a sense of obligation or guilt. Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do other than end the relationship.
When it comes down to it in your interest and for the benefit of your partner, make sure that you’ve done your best to keep the relationship intact. If you don’t, you could be consumed with guilt or self-doubt, wondering whether you’ve done all you can give to your partner and your relationship.
“This can be difficult for a romantic partner to understand, and they could interpret these changes as a lessening of interest in the relationship.”
After Joey Liang’s girlfriend broke up their relationship, he began suffering from mental illness. The state of his mind.
The 20-year-old student from Sydney was stressed by her work.
“Because of my study stress, I grew anxious and insecure,” the student says.
“I think that’s what drove the other person to feel uncomfortable and feel the relationship was not working out.”
Joey from ReachOut
Joey Liang, who is now a spokesperson for ReachOut, could not speak to her about the state of his mind. (Supplied)
If you’re in the process of encouraging someone to seek help, be ready for the possibility that they may not be prepared, according to ReachOut’s content director Annie Wylie.
“Or they could be seeking help in a way that you aren’t sure of or don’t have any idea about.
“It’s not up to you to fix them; they are not broken, and it’s not necessarily up to you to put pressure on them to take action if they’re not ready.”
And mental health problems aren’t always a factor in relations in a wrong manner.
“There is no reason to assume you can’t have a happy and healthy relationship when one or both partners have difficulties,” Ms. Wylie said.
Talking about mental health and having a chat with a new friend
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The topic of mental health with a new person isn’t an easy task. However, it can help build a bond and help you determine whether they’re the right fit for you.
Remaining in the wrong place for the wrong motives
According to Professor Hunt, it’s not uncommon for individuals to delay ending the relationship when the person they love is at risk.
“It can be difficult when people think that leaving their partner can make their partner susceptible to difficulties that are associated with your mental wellbeing.
“For example, if someone is struggling with social withdrawal, their partner may feel that leaving them will increase the likelihood that they will become more socially isolated.”
Ms. Shaw suggests that this is even more difficult if your family members depend on your part as a partner.
“Extended family could have an investment in the partner staying as it saves them stepping in. So the guilt and pressure to keep going are greater.”
She suggests that people delay the end of a relationship because of the burden they feel.
“However, the pressure to remain is a reason why it’s tempting to quit.
“The feeling of being trapped, that ‘it’s all up to me, that the caring part of the relationship has come to define the relationship, are all reasons to want to get away.”
Supporting your friend
Close-up of a man and woman in a short story about how you can support your partner without sacrificing your own.
Because women are taught to prioritize the needs of others ahead of themselves, women are over-supportive when it comes to heterosexual relationships.
Things to consider
If you consider ending a relationship with anyone who has mental health issues, There are a few things to think about.
The way you handle it will be based on the individual and their requirements.
What other support systems do you have in place?
“It would be important for an individual to work with their partner to ensure they receive effective treatment, and to ensure that other supports — friends, family members, mental health services — are in place if a breakup does occur,” Professor Hunt adds.
The support system you choose to use will be based on the type of mental health problem you love is suffering from.
Steps To Take Before Calling It Quits
Check Your Ego At The Door
You’re not the source for your spouse’s depressive symptoms. Depressed people might do or say things that they usually wouldn’t. The illness can result in them screaming. Being the closest person to the sufferer, you’re easy to be a target. Don’t be a victim.
Recruit Outside Help
Discuss your concerns with trusted family members and friends. Request advise and support. Get a breather now and again. Recognize the importance of your health. Crucial as well.
Ask them what they need.
“It’s beneficial if you speak to your partner about ‘What can I do to support you? Am I doing the right things? How do you feel about this?’ so you can understand where they are coming from,” says Ms. Wylie.
If you’re seeking assistance with a particular issue, you or your partner has to face Services like Beyond Blue have plenty of options on the internet.
Set A Deadline
If you are experiencing a lot of stress, Consider setting a schedule to make changes. In this case, for instance, you may choose to extend it for three months. If your family member hasn’t taken action or started treatment in the meantime or hasn’t improved even after treatment, or is refusing to follow the treatment suggestions according to the instructions, only then can you decide to leave?
Professor Hunt states that setting boundaries is essential for everyone involved in the relationship.
“That includes being clear about expectations of communication, [and] seeing each other following the end of a relationship.”
Consider The Practical Implications
A relationship with someone who is depressed could make the healthy partner feel insecure and sometimes a bit depressed. If you feel like you can’t continue, then it’s probably time to cut the ties. It’s more straightforward than it appears, mainly if you’re already engaged in a relationship. Where are you going? What are you going to live on? What is your spouse’s life on? Are children involved?
The majority of people with depression abuse alcohol or drugs. If you are one of them, leaving the house may be the only option. Your child’s emotional wellbeing and safety on the physical side must be the topmost paramount concern. It is possible to take a close review of these and other aspects before you leave and depart.
Ask for assistance
Ms. Shaw believes it is essential to take care of your mental health as well.
“Be prepared to contact the mental health [support] team should you need to or your extended family.
“You can maintain your partner’s privacy, but you need to talk about what is going on for you as well.”
Breaking Up: a Checklist to Help You Decide
When you’re overwhelmed with negativity, it’s typical to desire to “clear the decks” to rid yourself of everything that demands time and energy. If someone is suffering from depression, this could start with the person closest to them: their spouse.
However, before pulling the pin, make sure to ask yourself the below questions (or ask for help to accomplish this).
Engage in honest communication and be open
Ms. Wylie states that honest and honest communication is the most effective method to progress.
“It boils down to the discussion and being honest and honest, and not putting blame.
“Relationships are complex, and so blaming one aspect of your relationship for a breakup or problems is not the full story.”
For Joey, finding out why his partner believed that they needed to end their relationship has taught him several valuable lessons for the future of relationships.